processing the process

By now many of you are at least seeing an end in site to the testing, touring, auditioning, portfolio dropping off, open house madness of the high school process. I found that until I lived it I couldn’t imagine it could possibly be as intense and overwhelming and confusing as people said. Turned out I completely agreed by the time I was thinking about final lists. 

So, final lists. 

You may be finding that school you thought you’d love, you don’t. And conversely, there might have been a lovely surprise in their as well. Reputations and hearsay don’t hold up when you get to see schools themselves - or at least talk to people there - or at the very least, do the research yourself. 

Which leaves you with putting final lists together. It can be challenging in a variety of ways. Finding enough schools you feel comfortable with (even though you can list 12, I strongly maintain you should only do that if you’re perfectly comfortable about sending your child to all 12 of those schools). You and your child might not be on the same page. In some cases kids are “so sure” they’re going to get a specialized seat they’re not at all interested in main round choices. Grades and/or test scores turned out not to be what schools are saying they are looking for. You or your child don’t feel like dealing with it (I know this one well). People are naysaying your choices. 

You might start by reviewing materials you picked up along the way. Going over notes you might have taken. Talking to your child about what they liked and didn’t like about the various schools. We wrote the names of schools on post its, which made it easy to rearrange them in preference order - something that often happens as you weigh options. With Izzy, we started at the bottom, with the reasonable school she disliked the most and worked our way up (she was a heart set on specialized kid). And give it some time. There’s still a month to talk - but good to get conversations going now so there’s not a last minute sense of panic - I’ve been there too and it’s not pretty.

If any of you are interested I also consult with families one on one. I’ve talked to many kids, to countless parents, on the phone, in person. It sometimes helps to have a third party in the mix, or even someone else to mull options over with. If you’re interested or want more info, let me know.