decision making time

While there are still interviews and testing and auditions still going on for some, things are starting to wrap up, as main round applications are due 12/1. 

It’s ok not to have a definitive list yet. It’s ok to keep changing your minds. It’s ok to not have favorites. Hey, it’s ok to not have fallen in love with anything. I went through that with Jack. 

It’s pretty much impossible to imagine who these kids will be during the next four years. What the best environment will be. If you’ve made the right choices. If the school they’re offered will be a good fit. 

I’ve mentioned this before - Jack was offered seats at Baruch and Brooklyn Tech (3rd main round choice and first specialized choice).  Baruch didn’t offer a spring open house so we had to make a decision based on a tour that neither of us was particularly engaged during.  We ended up making the choice based on possible opportunities, thinking at a bigger school he’d have more options going forward. Turns out at least for the first couple of years the smaller school would’ve been a far better choice. He was lost and lonely, and hated where he was. If he had chosen a smaller school he would’ve been on the basketball team, he would’ve been in the neighborhood, he would’ve had a lot of friends he knew from middle school in the same place. 

 We grappled with transferring and each time he decided to stay and stick it out. This year has been transformative. He loves his classes. His major is social science research and he found topics he enjoys,  is enthusiastic about, comes home talking about. The kid he was at the end of eighth grade is someone so different than the person he’s growing into. What was a terrible fit before, now seems like he’s in the right place. You never know. 

There are no guarantees in any of this. You do you best to make smart, informed choices.

And again, it’s only high school.